Activities felt to be off-base and the need to keep information on them from others, is the wellspring of both culpability and aggression. If one has been not able to determine an issue sufficiently one might feel ‘compelled’ to commit an activity one feels severely about. We can end up being very upset on the off chance that we believe we have done something horrible or uncalled for to another, especially in the event that this is something we, need to stow away, and, surprisingly, more so assuming somebody almost looks into it. We are then prone to defend our activity, to legitimize it and find motivations behind why the demonstration was merited and for sure not off-base all things considered.
We are being critical of ourselves (instead of learning the examples of our experience) and afterward we project that, guessing that others will be similarly critical. A fantastic connection with someone else requires great correspondence, common comprehension and sympathy. A furious happens when there is an unexpected takeoff based on what is needed or expected – an undesirable change or break in the relationship. Such bombshells definitely have profound outcomes; a less fortunate relationship causes a drop in close to home tone. Individuals can similarly have disturbs with items or circumstances on the off chance that there is a decrease of control or understanding, for example I can fly off the handle assuming that my vehicle stalls or on the other hand assuming I unexpectedly get sick.
Your sensation of command over circumstances might be upset on the off chance that somebody assesses the conditions uniquely in contrast to you, and especially assuming they uphold their comprehension upon you, getting out whatever you ought to or should do or not do. An analysis of what you have done or of your capacity, may similarly cause unsettling influence.
Going with these elements are the choices that have been made notwithstanding unpleasant circumstances and uneasiness, and that have become fixed thoughts and act as protection systems, to guard you from similar circumstances potentially happening once more. It is personal torment, or the danger of such agony, which holds such mutilated thoughts set up, in any event, when they are as of now not reasonable. It is on occasion of upset or aggravation that we especially handle hold of specific thoughts and convictions to safeguard ourselves, to legitimize our activities (regardless of whether we furtively regret them), and to cause ourselves to feel alright. We might want to make another wrong – to control, or give our own assessments and reactions of the other individual – to feel all the more right ourselves.
All safeguard systems are types of lying. They distort reality, both to ourselves as well as other people. Gurdjieff was resolute that a great many people lie, more often than not. That they don’t realize they are lying exacerbates things. At the point when you realize you are purposely lying, your impression of the truth is presumably satisfactory. At the point when you relate to the lying and experience the lie as truth, then you beguile yourself and your insight has become exceptionally twisted.
Much of the time, we claim to know a reality that we can’t be aware. Individuals take on the propensity for talking about things they can’t be aware, like they have a lot of experience with them, for example of what others’ inspirations and sentiments are – though truth be told, a lot is fanciful. Man begins to envision something to satisfy himself, and very soon he starts to accept what he envisions, or if nothing else some of it.Concealment, nullification and not recognizing are self-lies, used to lower reality, to keep it subliminal, to keep up with the norm, to try not to face reality or one’s actual sentiments. They are safeguard systems, utilized unknowingly, constantly, naturally – joined to anything we would rather not arise, to check out or be aware of: the unsuitable. They might be sentiments that are against or held somewhere around our most emphatically held mental convictions. In the event that an inclination or want is set off that is excessively awkward, we reduce most, if not all, connection with it, we repudiate it – ‘It wasn’t me, it wasn’t mine’ – we relate to another part of ourselves, a sub-character that daren’t have such sentiments or wants. In this manner we become separated from our actual sentiments and inspirations, laying the reason for future misery.
Essentially the lower condition of being that is removed to, then, at that point, turns into a protected arrangement – an approach to going on toward our unique objectives and endurance, without confronting resistance recently experienced.